Have you ever made a list of characteristics that describe your “ideal mate?”
My girlfriend Theresa and I did when we were sixteen. My list included really mature traits like the color of my dream date’s hair (brown) and how his derriere looked in a pair of Levi’s 501’s.
Theresa—who I’m still blessed to be friends with almost three decades later—and I had a great laugh when I dug up those old lists several years ago. I had been asked to speak to a group of Christ-following college women about how to make wise decisions about men. (I’m pretty sure they chose me because after years of making really poor relationship choices, I had finally gotten it right with my amazing husband.)
On one hand, what constitutes each woman’s ideal mate varies from person to person. But on the other hand I believe that, if you desire to walk with God for a lifetime and partner with your husband in bringing God’s kingdom here to earth, there is a list of five essential character qualities he needs to possess.
If I were advising a younger Christian woman about character qualities that are non-negotiable in the man she dates and marries, this is the list I would give her: (more…)