How (Not) To Judge a Parent


I used to be full of great parenting advice.

Then I had kids.

Now my heart resonates with this quote from How Children Raise Parents by Dan Allender:

“Parenting is an invitation to suffering because no one really knows what to do…Perhaps the greatest task of parenting is humbly staying involved even when we don’t have a clue what to do.”


As I look across the room at my bookcase, I see an entire shelf filled with books about how to raise my kids. I’ve even read some of them.

But the best piece of parenting advice I’ve ever gotten? It was from my friend Liza. She told me, “Don’t judge other parents.”

(Actually, at times we are called to judge others. What she really meant was not be judgmental when assessing how other people parent. Further defining the difference between the two words would make a great blog post. On another day. For now, I think you know what I mean.)

Because no one else knows the myriad of background factors that led that parent to make that decision about that child.

What’s the best parenting advice you’ve ever received?

4 thoughts on “How (Not) To Judge a Parent

  1. best advice: stay consistant in all you do, it breeds trust and respect.
    When you're not parenting by knee jerk reactions, your kids notice(you're not angry, it's that they've made a poor decision), they'll come to feel comfortable in knowing their boundaries and who to operate between them;there by becoming confident in the choices they make. thanks for this link casey! -beki


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