On Unplanned Pregnancies And Being Pro-Life


I am pro-life.

I hesitate to write that.

Not because I lack conviction. But because when some people see that word—pro-life—what comes to mind is a condemning, moralistic, angry, religious zealot who wants to suppress women.

Sadly, that characterization is sometimes true. Or at least parts of it are true.

One of the accusations the pro-choice movement levels against the pro-life movement is: Why do pro-lifers only value life when it belongs to the unborn child? If pro-lifers were consistent, they would value all life. Not just the child’s, but the mother’s as well. Where are pro-lifers when it comes to tackling—or even being aware of—the systemic issues that often lead to unplanned pregnancies in the first place?

These are valid questions.

Being truly pro-life is more complicated—and certainly more demanding—than many of us would like to admit.


I’ve worked with hundreds of women in my career.

I have never met a woman who aspires to abortion.

Little girls don’t dream of one day having an abortion. Teenagers don’t list “Abort a baby” among their life goals.

The women I know who had an abortion did so because they felt they had no other choice.

And they were afraid.

Afraid of what they would lose if they revealed their pregnancy, let alone carried their baby to term.

The approval of a parent.
The chance to get an education.
Their current romantic relationship.
Their job.

These are very real fears. And very real losses.

There’s a reason it’s sometimes called a “crisis” pregnancy.

One of the (many) ways we can be truly pro-life is to provide emotional and financial support for women with unplanned pregnancies.

In my next post I’ll share some practical ways to do just that.

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